So I was having this conversation with Devin Castles the other day when the topic of directness and honesty being construed as rude or insulting came up. More to the point was that people perceive this as a put down, or somehow a reflection on them, most people being so self involved that everything is about them.
So I mentioned that wonderful old saying the truth hurts. And yes it does. Mostly due to what I just described above, where people perceive honesty about them, others, whatever as a slight. But I’m looking inward now, tying this with the underlying theme of this web site on the meaning of life, that we only have us, that we only control us, that we only know us, that we can only affect us ultimately, and that we are responsible for us. So looking inward as trite as the saying is and as trite and stupid sounding the term is means, if you give it value, just to see oneself, a topic of another post here and many more to come.
So the truth can not only hurt others, it can hurt yourself.
If you aren’t where you want to be, cognitively, or in your mind, for real then you see this and either deny or hurt yourself or feel bad as it were. Feel pain. Feel melancholy or call it depression if you want the pharmaceuticals to sell you drugs.
But really as you have learned if you aren’t where you want to be you are lying to yourself because you are where you want to be or you wouldn’t be there. So how does the truth hurt then? It shouldn’t. Only being blind to fact hurts but what you don’t know can’t hurt you. Haha.
Is there a point here? Not really. Just recognize that the truth may hurt emotionally but it will set your free in reality.