Devin’s post on Living Your Choices dealt with reacting to events as our only area of choice. So of course I was reminded of the truth about comfort zones and control of ourselves.
One of the things that I’ve observed is the massively divergent apparent comfort each person embodies in any given space or situation. Beyond confidence alone, there are people who just don’t apologize for existing, on any level, and the reason appears to be two fold. One, that they are confident in general, and two that they don’t care about other’s perception of them in particular. This isn’t planned or practiced, they just are, what I would call, casual.
I am not one of those, really, I am a verbose opinionated truthist with a penchant for avoiding situations I don’t like, logically enough. I also won’t keep my mouth shut when the truth will do so much better. I do know, though, along the lines of the inspiration or reminder for this post, that I am the one controlling my mood, or behavior, always, in any given situation.
Now, that doesn’t mean I am elated to know that if I am uncomfortable, gee whiz, I just ain’t comfortable in my own skin, no, on the contrary, I can study my reactions and use that technique I told Yianni about where you visualize yourself from without and are taken out of your emotions by so doing. Better yet, flee the situation. Or give myself enough time to flee by visualizing. Or drink alcohol.
Anyway, we all control how we react ultimately, just like choosing values, roads, pathways, friends and so on. So our reactions are once again on us. We aren’t pissed off by others, we are pissed of by ourselves. We aren’t enlightened, freed, comforted, loved, pushed and so on by anyone but ourselves. Sort of a bizarre can’t be done to you thing.
How you react is your choice. But not your only choice as Devin implied.
Verbose opinionated truthist. Great concept. I am sitting here in NYC waiting for another Greek for from the west coast (for an edit session of a short we shot in Fort Lee, NJ last week) and decided to get my dose of Mediterranean meaning (or -lessness). And Mark Stamas .com gave me verbose opinionated truthist. How we react is a fine topic. In fact, in the New York Times today there is an article about how we react in the way we tell our life stories tells a lot about ourselves. Probably this comment does.
gotta love those comfort zones, too. the ultimate quest. shortest path to them? alcohol.